Worse, the exploitation often becomes internalized. She believes her worth is measured only by her output. When she cannot produce—when she gets sick or falls apart—she feels worthless. The exploiter doesn't need to enforce the rules; she enforces them on herself. Recovering from exploitation requires a radical shift in mindset—and often, a radical shift in environment.
You must believe that rest is not earned; it is a right. Saying “no” is not an act of aggression; it is an act of survival. Reclaiming 30 minutes of your morning—even if it means letting the dishes sit—is a political act of self-preservation. exploited mom
If you see a mother who is perpetually exhausted, perpetually giving, and perpetually alone in her giving, recognize what you are witnessing. It is not love. It is exploitation. And the most radical gift you can give her is not a compliment on her resilience—it is the act of seeing her, and helping her put the burden down. If you or someone you know is experiencing severe exploitation, including financial abuse or coercive control, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org. Worse, the exploitation often becomes internalized
